A Lesson in Paying Attention

Discernment is something a lot of people just don’t have.  By its definition, in a basic sense, discernment is the ability to judge things in the way that they should be.  That maybe why my pastor preached on that topic this past Sunday.  In he sermon he mentioned social media quite a few times.  You may listen to his wonderful sermon here.  This led me to think to myself.  I wonder what people would do if I posted something that a lot of people would deem “controversial” on my Facebook.  Boy was that fun!  It was also kind of disheartening to see people that I have deemed as wise and intelligent show that they aren’t really paying all that much attention to stuff around them.  Let’s take a look at that, but first I would like to address a few things.

For those of you who don’t know, I’m a Kantian.  I won’t go in to what a Kantian is, but here is an article about Kant and his philosophy.  I see things in a practical and logical way.  That doesn’t mean I don’t like to have fun.  I’m not actually a Vulcan.  I come from a family that has so many military folks in it we might as well all be in and I have the utmost respect for our men and women in the military.  I always have and I always will.  When it comes to politics, not that it is anyone’s business, I think of myself as an Independent because I don’t think the two party system actually works all that well.  That being said, I live in Oklahoma and Independent voters are not usually allowed to vote in the primaries.  This past year they were only allowed to vote in the Democratic primaries.  What I’m about to tell y’all is nobodies business but my own, but for the purpose of this article I will go ahead and say it.  I didn’t vote for Trump.  I also didn’t vote for Clinton.  I voted for an Independent this year and that is all you need to know.  My reasons are my own and that’s all that needs to be said.  I have always been told to respect the office of the presidency even if you don’t like the person holding that office.  You may not like them, but they are over you and that is that.  I didn’t vote for him, but he’s the president now and I respect that office. Oh, and my mama always taught me “if you can’t say anything nice about a person, keep your mouth shut”.  So, President Trump always wears nice suits and I like his ties.  He is also a good business man.

So, this post I’m talking about that I made.  What is it exactly?  Well, here is the post exactly how I posted it.  I didn’t edit it.  I didn’t comment on it after the fact.  Here is exactly how I left the post.


Alright, you all see it.  No edit.  Just sticking that little blip out there.  Everyone else does the same thing.  I typically do not.  Want to see the replies I’ve got?  Here they are.  I’ve blanked the pictures and people on here are only first initials.

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Wow!  People have some pretty strong opinions!  They go about making assumptions that I believe some things even though I’ve never said that I believe certain things. I also learned what some people kind really think about me.  Now, I will have you all know that I have a wide variety of friends on my Facebook.  Some are people I’ve known since I was a child.  Some are family members.  Others are from school.  Some are holders of PhDs while some barely passed with a high school diploma.  I have people that are all over the place in terms of political thought and the same goes for religion.  I don’t expect all my friends to believe the same way I do.  What I do expect is my friends to respect my opinions in the same way that I respect theirs.  For the most part, my friends seem to do that.  Oh look at me being all Kantian and logical again.   Today, in this post I would like to address some issues that I have with how people respond to things.

First off, in my original post, one of my points was that Trump is the current president of our country.  I’m pretty sure that we can all agree on that fact.  He IS the president whether or not you voted for him.  Correct me if I’m wrong, but the Constitution of the United States starts with the phrase “We the people of the United States…”  not “We the people of the United States that agrees with our opinion and screw everyone that doesn’t”. That’s the way the political system works in the United States.  I point out the fact that the office of President of the United States of America demands some respect regardless of your personal feelings about the person holding that office at any given time.  For example,  I wasn’t overly fond of some of the things that President Obama did while he was in office and I respected him because of his position.

I made the statement that people throwing a fit and saying things like “if Melania would live in the White House we could afford…” are, in a round-about way, also an attack on Trump’s family.  For crying out loud people, they aren’t the president!  Donald Trump is!  Get your heads on right.  As “T” with the blue square points out, Melania and Barron didn’t ask to be put in that position.  She, along with many parents if they have the choice, wants her child to finish his current year in the school he’s at before moving.  There have been so many news places that have reported on this, especially recently because of this whole fiasco about “if she would just move”.  Melania has said that she and Barron will be moving to the White House in June after he finishes this year in school.  As for the security for them I would like to point out something that some people seem to have forgotten that President Obama did.  He signed this little bill that provides lifetime protection under the Secret Service for all current and past Presidents AND First Ladies.  Obama did that and remember the outrage about Michelle taking their children on all those trips while they were in office and it costing the US Taxpayers a ton of money?  So I’m not sure why people are throwing a fit about that and not realizing it’s pretty much a similar situation.

When it comes to funding programs, yeah some things are gonna get cut.  NOT Meals on Wheels!  People, please do your research!  Or at least attempt it.  Yes, Meals on Wheels does get some funding from the federal part of the government.  However, a good portion of the funds come from the states and private donors to keep it going.  So if you want to keep those open, keep donating to your local Meals on Wheels group.  Currently in Oklahoma there is outrage over changing our license plates on our cars to promote tourism in the state and now they are looking to close a lot of those parks, many of which are actually making money for the state and not money pits.  Most people in Oklahoma need to be focused on the garbage stuff going on in our own state!

Ultimately, the point I was making was that people are going to argue about it because people seem to feel that the people surrounding the current President of the United States need to be held to the same standard.  You can’t do that.  I never said anything about the past leaders of our country or their families in my post for a reason.  You cannot base one person’s experience on another person experience!  My experience with getting picked on is not the same as another one of my friend’s experience and we can’t be compared to the media storm surrounding the Trump family.  The biggest difference is that these are people that are in the spotlight because of who they are associated with.  They shouldn’t have to suffer because of it.

If you ruffle people’s feathers you get very aggressive results and you learn a lot about people.  You think you know people and that they know you fairly well when they actually don’t.  People don’t know when to make a big deal out of something and when to not make a big deal out of it.  You can’t control everything around you and you can’t force people to believe the same way you do.  While I respect a lot of people, a lot of people are undeserving of that respect.  Some people lost my respect yesterday.  People complain because the Republicans were “whiny” during Obama’s presidency and they are complaining now because the Democrats are the same way about Trump’s presidency.  People will be unhappy regardless of what you do.  You cannot please everyone.  I see political garbage on my Facebook all day, every day.  Some of the stuff is about Trump’s promises he made during his campaign.  People, he’s been in office for a little over three months.  Cut him some slack.  Some things were a mistake on his part.  He genuinely might not have known about the people that had contacts among the Russians.  You don’t know.  You aren’t in his brain.  Why don’t we all just have some basic human decency and not attack each other for stupid reasons.

Just one more thing before I go.  I feel like I should be offended by the seeming allegation that I have no respect for the US military, but I’m also rather unclear as to if the statement is directed at me specifically or not.  So, to be clear let me elaborate on that.  As I said above, I have been raised in a military family.  My own father was in the Army.  I have so many nieces, nephews, cousins, and grandparents that were and currently are in the military.  Saying that I have no respect for our brave men and women that are serving in the various military branches is one of the most asinine things I think I’ve ever heard someone say about me.  If you honestly believe that, you don’t know anything about me.  I have been supportive of the military since I was a child.  If my family had any inkling that I had nothing but the utmost respect for our military they would hunt me down and end me.  I also wouldn’t see it coming because they would do so with their military training and weapons.  Some of my fondest memories are being around the military folks that I was raised around.  I loved going to see all the military aircraft with my parents and Truman Smith, who was a dear family friend and a WWII combat veteran.  I still talk to his widow on a regular basis that he brought home from Germany .  Also, just so people know that I actually put my money where my mouth is.  Here is a picture for you of my USO card.  Please do with this information what you will.  I should also like you all to know that I’ve supported the USO for many years, this is just the first year they’ve bothered to send me a card.

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Oh, and one more thing, if you actually know about military families.  They DO NOT have to move with their spouse when they get moved around to various bases.  If they chose to do so, the military does help with moving expenses.  Do your research people.  The US military doesn’t want children and spouses over in the middle the gosh darn Middle East if their military spouse is on deployment.  That’s just stupid and doesn’t make any sense at all.